Sometimes we pretend to be okay with something that a person says or does or is because we’re hoping or expecting that that specific attribute of theirs will change, and sometimes it can.
For example, I’m not typically someone who likes going out too much, but if the person that I was with enjoyed going out more than I did, there’s a chance that I would start enjoying it more too, but I would not want them to commit to the idea that that is going to happen.
Just like if I meet someone who says that they don’t ever want to get married. While I do, I should not commit to the idea that one day they are going to change their mind. So how do you avoid committing to potential? You ask questions, and you honestly evaluate the answers and the actions that follow. Acknowledge someone’s true colors and decide if their color palette matches with yours. And if it doesn’t be honest because it might go against what you had hoped and wish for.
Don’t look for a project to turn into a suitable partner. And now that doesn’t mean that you should look for someone who is perfect and that perfectly aligns with you and your life from the very start, because that’s not really what reality looks like.
But the person that you are today should align with the person that they are today. You don’t align with who they could be or with who you could be.